LOL, so much for regular postings ^^;
So one of my goals for my final year of school is to develop a self management system that can be used for both my personal and "work" needs. I swear to god I think I have been brainwashed by what I have been taught in school about the need for balance b/c I need to find a system that allows me to do all of this:
- Going and working at the Clinic (post coming explaining this)
- Working on my thesis (also a post coming on this
- Keeping my living space fit for human habitation
- Blogging *blushes at lapse*
- WOW (Need to at least get to 70 before Lich King drops)
- CoH (paid 40 bucks for a sub, better put it to good use)
I feel like I am developing OCD from all the research I have done so far on various time management and personal management systems that are available. Warning you all now, this will probably be a recurring post theme as I try to remind myself of what I have tried so far :P. This seems to be the overall problems that I have found with the concept of time management.
- They say that one must prioritize their tasks into what is most important, well what constitutes important? Gaming is important to me, should that go on the list?
- Step one in most programs, eliminate everything that distracts you from your goals. Again, both my thesis and gaming are important to me, so should i stop gaming in favor of my thesis? Also, ok, enjoy your ulcer that you develop when you eliminate any FUN out of your routine b/c you want to up your productivity by .5% All work and No play, you know the rest.
- Break things up into Chunks of time: Well that is fine and good with some tasks (cleaning, blogging), but everything else, well that is sort of annoying, I mean how pissed would my guild get if I said "ok guys, I have spent my allocated 30 minutes time on WOW, ill be back tomorrow!" its takes 20 minutes just to do "housekeeping" (checking AH, mail, traveling from the Inn to where you were), that will get annoying fast. Also, in the clinic, you cant just break things up into chunks, you MUST do things to their completion or either something gets missed.
- Finally, something that isnt brought up in most of what I read so far, ok you got your routine down to a science, what are you supposed to do the rest of the time?
After my preliminary search I have found 2 systems that seem to show the most promise (or at least dont make me feel like a damn robot) and can be used for both home and school/work. The one is
FlyLady and the other is mostly a patchwork of the tips found on
ZenHabits Though they say both can be done in both places I think that Flylady is better suited for the home and I can attempt to use ZenHabits in the clinic.
Now these systems both have their idiosyncacys that are useful and very annoying, to save you the terrible web design of the Flylady site I'll just write some of the principles here (prepare for lolz)
- The reason that you live in sqaulor and have done nothing to change your situation is b/c
A. you are afraid of failure by not meeting the expectations of the "perfect housewife"
B. (this one gets me) You have an "inner brat" that makes your efforts self defeating.
Ok, on B. This lady better realize how much of a mistake she makes by removing personal responsibility like this. By putting blame on a invisible entity (this inner brat) you are not holding them accountable for their actions (living in terrible, some bordering on squalid, conditions). Seriously if you read some of the stories people write in you wonder how much crap is in their house before they started, or how disorganized these people are (or have become). The author of this site is correct in saying that there is no excuse for such conditions, but she should'nt say its a inner voice.
- It doesnt have to be perfect, as long as it is done.
Im split on this one, while I understand that being Martha Stuart is not a realistic expectation, I personally dont believe in half-assing a job either.
- Anything can be done in 15 minutes
This is very true, and actually I agree with, breaking things up into these little segments can make a task more manageable, however, this is very unrealistic when working in a clinical setting (when a assessment can run 45minutes or longer). I will say that using such a method will be good to use on someone who may either have problems with endurance or low self esteem (prevents being overwhelmed).
- Step one in the program: Keep the Sink Shining
I must apologize, but if you feel you must validate your worth based on how SHINY the SINK is, you have some deeper underlying issues of self esteem. Course at the same time using housework quality as a measure of your worth is also unhealthy to me, but which is the lesser of two evils?
I had more to say about this system, but Im drawing a blank at the moment. Watch out for more posts about this system as I post up and mock some of the 5000 emails I get a day from this site (seriously, its alot)
Now before I get comments about "why the hell are you using it then?" Ill tell you why I have chosen it. Basically, my issue is not lack of motivation to keep a clean house, its because I simply dont think to do it until I HAVE to. I used to let things pile up until the last minute b/c I was spending time gaming or doing school work and didnt want to "waste time". Also I use it as a Preventative measure, by establishing these habits NOW, when im still in a semi-structured environment, they will be fully implemented and established when I FINALLY get to leave the nest. My mom was never diligent about keeping things neat or establishing that with my sister and I.
I am getting tired, so Ill talk about the Zenhabit blog another day when I have delved more into it.